We have reached the time in human evolution where most of us will not seek or attain Enlightenment through renouncement of worldly goods or encounters. We are no longer asked to remain celibate or go off and live in a monastery or on a mountaintop, if we are on a spiritual path. Most of us will only heal our wounded child, our issues, minds, hearts, souls, and bodies though our intimate interactions with others — lovers, friends, family members and the like.
What does this mean? This means if you think that you are living in peace and serenity simply because you are living in solitude, think again. If we never let anyone close enough to us to see our all-too-human flaws and faults, then we can go on thinking we are healed. Only when someone gets close enough to us to “push our buttons,” do we even know that we have unhealed issues within.
For instance, if you never love anyone enough to really care if they come or go, you might remain unaware of the jealousy demon that lurks within. Jealousy is one of the Sins Committed in the Name of Conditional Love, and it really is a powerful teaching tool, if we learn to address it.
Also, when we are in a deep place of love, all of our unhealed issues will surface. We can keep our childhood traumas suppressed, denied, and repressed so long as we keep others at bay. Our most painful issues emerge when we finally feel safe enough and loved enough to let them out.
Having children is probably one of the most eye-opening experiences we can ever have. Every developmental stage our children go through gives us an opportunity to embrace our own natural inner child, spoiled inner child, and wounded inner child. It also gives us an opportunity to deal with our own parental issues. We learn to forgive our parents, when we see ourselves behaving in many of the same dysfunctional ways that they did. When our children go through the out-of-control teen years, it brings us face to face with our own control issues. We finally learn that we can’t control anyone else’s behavior. We are only responsible for our own behavior. We learn that we can’t carry anyone else’s karma, and one of the most painful learning lessons for parents is this: We can’t carry our children’s crosses, and sometimes we must leave them where they fall. During these trying times, we must remember that our children are God’s children first and foremost, and we must let the universe teach them through suffering what they refused to learn through our love.
There are many powerful lessons to be learned in togetherness. It takes great courage, faith, trust, and hope to let down our guard, to put aside our mask (persona), and to reveal our true self. Fear keeps our guard up, love breaks it down.
If we never let anyone in, then we will leave this earth plane without learning what we truly incarnated to learn in the first place — that only love matters and only love is real.
Start today to tell the truth, be yourself, and act out of love. It may hurt a little at first, but love is worth it!